Thursday, March 28, 2019

Her hands.

My Mother's Hands
By Amanda Buckley


If I could write a poem,
I would write about my Mother's hands.

I picture her hands,
Short fingers, long nails,
Brown spots, blue veins.

They pray.
They have ridges on the nails. I used to feel them in church. I can see her
Adjust the ring with sapphires that was Dad's college pin.

They care for children and a husband.
If love is a verb, her hands are the tools, My Mother's hands held me, bathed me,
Wiped my tears and put a merthiolate ring around my finger to make me
Feel better.

My Mother's hands. They make delicious things. They scoop flour,
Lightly knead the dough and cut the biscuits.They used to put the biscuits
On a black cookie sheet. They don't make them like that anymore. 

My mother's hands. They work. They scrubbed floors, hatcheted
The monkey grass around the driveway, picked figs, picked okra,
Picked pecans, picked shrimp.

My Mother's hands. They are helpful. They pulled on my socks;
Her socks as she changes shoes AGAIN; my dad's socks. They gesture in a
Funny story. 

My mother's hands. They catch mardi gras beads for her and her grandchildren.
Well, maybe she will keep THIS pair. With a certain approving gesture, a house
At Dauphin Island becomes a wonderful find! Our Treasure.

My mother's Hands. They make beautiful things. They sketch and paint. They
Write notes and send her love on its way with a stamp.

My Mother's Hands. So competent. So caring. So useful.
I love my Mother's hands.


Friday, March 22, 2019

Just a few minutes.

That is what I need right now. Just a few minutes to start the journey of navigating life without Mom. Oh. I know I will need more than just a few. Yet this is where I start. With a few minutes here and there to breathe. And remember. All the events of the last few weeks.

Before her consciousness was gone she told us over and over "I love you. And I always will." It was more than precious time. It was blessed time spent with Mom. Last week felt so slow while it was happening. We watched her breathe. We held her hand. Sister soothed her by putting cool cloth against her sometimes burning skin. We sang (not so well but with great emotion). We prayed. And we prayed. We told her we loved her. Over and over. We told her to go on. Dad was waiting for her.

Daughter. Sister. Nurse. That is what we were. We held each other. Mimi. Marsha. Amanda. Me. Peter when he could be there.
Stephanie and Harry arrived Friday afternoon and then Paulette at about 3:00. The ides of March.
6:35 p.m. Her soul left her body. I opened the back door. A train was going by.

I just can not find the words that say how it was. Every human being experiences the loss of their mother at some point. Each one. Yet. THIS one  is so different and so personal. I felt it and feel it so profoundly. It brought me to my knees. Thank you, Mimi, for covering me in your love and giving me the strength to stand again and walk out of her house. Without you I think I would have cried myself into a puddle on the floor.

In her last moments she saw beyond the room that held her. She spoke to heavenly beings.
On her last Monday, in a clear voice, Mom said, "I'm finished. I'm through with what I have to do for now." She held her rosary all the while she was conscious. And we made sure it was in her hand for all the rest of her life.

There is a sweetness in her passing. I will forever see the spring with deeper appreciation. I do feel her love. Love never dies.

Shalom.


Saturday, March 16, 2019

Mother.

She died when flowers were in bloom, not quite spring. How appropriate that I am reminded of new life just as my mother's body expires. And expire is just a great word to use to describe the experience. Surrounded by many of her children Mom's heart used up the last weak beats it was meant to use. It was a Friday, in the evening.

 All week we had prayed, laughed, cried, sang, and loved her well. Five of the siblings were present as time permitted through the week. Two more siblings joined us on Friday, in time to add more love and prayers before her soul took flight.

I am so sad for me. For us. But I am so happy for Mom.  I will see her in all the signs of spring as I consider her new life. Heaven is richer today.

Well done good and faithful servant.

Shalom.

Friday, March 15, 2019

Images to remember.

The week is being filled with extraordinary visuals. Just now, picture this, Andrea Bocelli and choir singing the Lord's Prayer, only to look up and see two sisters administering medication to our Mom with loving tenderness as she continues to march toward eternity. I will hold on to that image for a very long time.

Shalom.

Wednesday, March 13, 2019

Almost time.

Precious hands of my mother as she makes her final journey. She is so strong, her little heart just keeps beating. I don't know how. 
Soon, very soon, she will see the face of God.

Shalom.