Thursday, August 27, 2015

The beginning.

Several years ago I started to write my story... I think this is all I will ever write. I lost the impetus to write any more. I want to blame the storm for physically removing my old neighborhood so that I couldn't even go back and conjure that feeling again. How many lifetimes ago was this childhood? Was it eons? Feels like it.


Growing up on Second Street.
The first breath I drew when the doctor slapped my behind was salty. Salt air.  Gulfport, Mississippi. Highway 90 ran east and west the length of the Mississippi Coast. Beach Boulevard is what the addresses read along the road. Second Street was one block north of Beach Boulevard. That’s where I grew up, Second Street. Just a walk through my grandmother’s yard and across the highway was the sand beach.  

For all practical purposes let’s say I grew up in the perfect southern Catholic family. Oh sure, we have ghosts or skeletons in our closet just like every other red blooded American family. But we lost the key a long time ago, and if we ever find it we will promptly loose it again. Thank you very much.

I was born in 1956. The year Elvis released his first gold album named “Elvis Presley”. Norma Jean changed her name to Marilyn Monroe and married Arthur Miller. The Wizard of Oz was shown on television for the first time. Dwight D. Eisenhower defeated Adlai E. Stevenson, again. The first hard disk drive was invented at IBM. And I was born. Breathing salty air.

I was the seventh child in a family that would eventually boast nine. In 1956 our house was a three bedroom, one bath house. I vaguely remember at some point my older brother sleeping on the screened in front porch. Too many bodies, not enough beds.

My grandmother lived with my bachelor uncle across the street from us. Granny. In her later years she was bird like. She was frail and tiny and small. In pictures of her in younger days she was taller and fuller than what I remember. Not too long ago one of my sisters told me that I “sashayed”. That was something my Granny did and I took it as a compliment.

When I was little there was many a summer day that Granny and Uncle Dick would have ice-cold watermelon sliced and ready for us to eat on our way home from swimming and playing or fishing and crabbing on the beach. There was a concrete table and concrete benches under a shady oak tree in her yard. We had to wash the salt water off our little bodies under the hose in our backyard anyway, so messy eating was the norm when devouring the sweet melon. 

Granny’s usual attire was a cotton housedress with a starched linen apron. On her feet she wore soft house shoes. She stepped softly.  She spoke softly. And she served the most wonderful breakfast you ever ate. Uncle Dick traveled fairly frequently and when he did one of us children was appointed the duty of spending the night with Granny. She didn’t like to be alone in her house at night. It was a treat and the reason was her breakfast and because she had milk that came in the carton. (At our house we drank powdered milk that my mother mixed up.) Not only did she have milk in the carton she also had, sent straight from heaven, chocolate milk in the carton.

So, for breakfast she would serve you milk from the carton, juice, eggs, grits, bacon, toast and ask if you wanted - cereal, too. Oh my. You wouldn’t have to eat again for days after a Granny breakfast!
Granny’s kitchen was in the back part of her house.  I remember only impressions of the rooms south of the kitchen because, as a child, I was not allowed to venture into the front part of her house very often. The divider was the dining room door. When you breached this point the house became very quiet and, as I remember, dark and cooler that the rest of the house. She must have kept the blinds closed most of the time. This was before central air conditioning became popular and was installed in every house south of the Mason -Dixon Line.

The den was the part of her house that I remember the most as being lived in. It was where we visited her on Sunday mornings. It was where she kept, behind her chair, a wicker basket with a few books and toys to occupy the younger minds and fingers because “children should be seen and not heard” -as we were continually reminded.

When I was in the sixth or seventh grade I sat in that den and Granny rolled my hair in rags so I could go to school the next day with “banana” curls. When I had asked her to help me she told me to come over that evening and bring my comb and a bunch of cut up rags about eight inches long. I did that. I sat on the floor and she had a bowl of water on a table by her chair. She would take a strand of my hair, dip my comb in the bowl of water and comb the wet into my hair. Then she would take a rag and wrap my hair around it, wind it into a knot and tie it close to my scalp. The rags close to my face were tied so tight I could feel it pulling my eyes up into an oriental expression. That night I slept with the rags in my hair and woke early the next morning and walked over to her house to let her undo the rags and fix my curls for me. It was wonderful! I was born cursed with straight hair and Granny had performed a miracle. She even told my Aunt Eleanor that my hair would be easy to “train”. I don’t know why but that made me feel very proud, to have trainable hair. 

Granny’s love and personal attention went a long way for this seventh child of nine children. I could get lost or forgotten at home, but not at Granny’s. It was good to get old enough to go across the street by myself and have Granny all to myself. It made me feel very grown up and on my own. She was the queen of many questions, always interested in what I had to say.

Granny was born Georgia Mae Shirley on May 28, 1898. She was the oldest child of George Shirley and Willie Ann West Shirley. Her siblings were Ollie (pronounced ohlee, not ahlee), Otto, Roy and Joann. Her mother died when she was 12. Her family lived in a house on 25th Avenue in Gulfport. (Later that house would be used for her son’s dental practice.)

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You know the rest of the story. I grew up, married Mr. Macho and lived happily ever after. 
Be tend. 
(Thanks Tucker.)

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